Some great advice on here. The truth is, when you bring a new baby home and have a toddler (or a few) at home, you are often a disaster for a good, long while. Anyone else feel this way? One day at a time. Feeling very tired from running after my 2 year old all day (also up a lot of nights as my son is not a great sleeper) and pregnant let alone what I'll be like when I have the newborn? This method worked for me. 3. But then, of course, I have to actually take the time to put the randomness in the appropriate locations, instead of throwing them on the side table. Doc suggested topping up after feeds so I can get a bit of respite with ds. Toddler needs to come first so baby needs to be able to be put down. Once the pictures are in the book, you can ask him what words he'd like on each page or add a simple text yourself. I'll let you know how I get on! So if I am feeling tired, I am going to try and take a nap when my kids are. 2. Tbh, I think the first 6mths passed in a blur.But, it does get easier and more enjoyable. This checklist will walk you through the habits you can build to stop staying up late and start waking up early to get the time alone that you crave. So I'm slowly working to designate locations for the random bits and pieces that end up on surfaces in our home. Linda Lewis, research psychologist and author of “When Blessings don’t count”, looks at this issue with great empathy. So get help if you need it, everyone needs help. It take discipline and effort. Overwhelmed with toddler and newborn. Thank you all so much for all your excellent and sensible advice. I could have written your exact post about 3 months ago. Routine, routine, routine. Its really really hard, but you can do it! PS don't be too hard on yourself! l. If you can try and do one thing, tone down the shouting. Making … I am feeling so overwhelmed, we moved to a new place 3 weeks ago, I am still living in the midst of a million boxes, running my business from home, and my toddler has the flu I just recovered from. It does get better but it is overwhelming initially. Up to about 6 weeks, I think I cried most days. I also felt pressure to say yes whenever I was asked by someone to go somewhere with them. No wonder new moms feel overwhelmed. climb up, jump down, climb up, jump down... between that and the little indoor trampoline she had a great circuit and definitely wore some energy off when bored! Sounds like exactly what you're doing. You sound like you are doing an awesome job xxAs mumofthreekids suggests, perhaps the nanny could free you up to play with ds - I think this would do you the world of good. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. I'm glad we've helped. If you have been feeling low or know of someone who is finding her new role as parent more of a challenge than a joy, you need to know more about PND – postnatal depression or distress. When I wake up before the rest of my family, I feel like I have more control of my day. Here we go: This one is probably the #1 habit I need to keep up, because I know how important my Mama’s Morning is for me. We are his servants, He is our master. If you are feeling the same helplessness its worth discussing it with someone. Take advantage of that and use it as an excuse as needed . I can get my shower in if I want to. I know that my brain is going to feel the way my house looks. There is nothing worse than a hungry cranky toddler and a crying newborn. Or even better, ask her to take both so you can have a snooze.. Oh bless you. Do this over and over and you should notice that gradually she will soothe. Guilty for feeling bad towards a little baby and people who just wanted to help. Her circumstances, personality, life experiences, family life, etc. It's normal for your toddler to feel a range of feelings about this new change in his family. The desperation of trying keep your head above water, yet feeling like you’ve failed. I found life with a newborn tough and life with a toddler is still tough, just in different ways, so the thought of trying to do them together is pretty daunting. l. lojo461. In a way, I felt like I was dying a slow death. Ok, DS and DD1 weren't playing together yet, but hopefully they would in the future. Because there are times when just knowing that someone else has felt the same emotions and experienced similar discouragement makes me feel less isolated and more like a normal human again. Use disposable plates: I wish I had this idea before because I had to wash a lot of dishes which now I think was a waste of my time. - £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? Feeling quite overwhelmed by newborn and toddler combo: Hi ladies Really beginning to feel anxious about how I'm going to cope with a 2.5 year old and a newborn in late Aug. Jungle book was another great favourite when I needed a little longer to recuperate (or shower, go to the loo AND eat). With a newborn and toddler in tow, it’s impossible (or maybe possible, just stressful and unenjoyable) to keep to a strict, minute by minute routine. I had it with ds and I recognise the same feelings of helplessness as last time I'm usually very measured and have things under control so when things get like this, it's hard to be objective. Well today I am feeling very emotional and overwhelmed with everything. 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